give urself some credit... if u say u cant, random advice from random strangers will not help you change anything... u need to believe in urself... u can choose! u r more than capable to choose your partner... if u say u can't in the first place, i don't think there is much these advices will do anything! i knw it just feels insensitive and ignorant of me to say these things but u rly are better than u think u are, u are stronger than you think u are, allow urself to take control. secondly, if u feel like they u meet the same kind of people then just separate urself from ur routine, do sth different rather than hang out at the same spots, because most places tend to consist of the same people, and thirdly, when u feel like u don't want to do sth, just say no, loud and clear, cuz that tends to get u hurt alot, just say no, and when the r/ship is inconsiderate of ur feelings, just knw that what u r in is a r/ship that is not abt u but him. i know this is a long reply, and i am sry abt that, but if u do feel like this was helpful please just communicate, we are all here.