Admins please approve. Hey everybody! I have a question. Please help me guys? I am a person with a lot shame and fear to interact with people. Questions 1. I am a person with a big shame to communicate with people that I introduced for first time (even with a guy or a lady), but I am too funny and a simple guy for every person who is a friend with me (who crosses the line of introductions) 2. I am very shameful for sexual relationships, means that "it's easy to me for introduction with ladies, but the hard part is when I meet a lady I always worried about, 'what can I talk about, what can I talk next, and what can she judge me for what I said'. These are questions in my mind." Don't tell me that try to avoid these questions, I tried a lot and a lot, but I found myself in that circle. 3. I am an over thinker. My mind exaggerates thing over happening. Totally, I am obsessive with things happening. 4. In other side, I am too careless with things. When accidents happen (car accident, death of parents and an expected and scary accidents), I feel nothing but I act like I feel nervous as a people around me. 5. Mastervation. (By z way I have the chance to make relationship with lot of ladies upto bed, there is shyness but with alcohol and viagra help, I overcome the problem.) According to my relationship with ladies (fear and shyness), I am so happy with mastervation rather than having sex. Generally, how can I develop communicating with people? One thing you have to know, I am a reader (psychology, philosophy, science and fictions). In other words, I addicted to art. But, these knowledges are not enough to solve my problems. Even I have tried to talk to friends who are psychologists ( I have never told them these all are my problems, you know our traditions.), I have not got enough and cleat answers yet. So guys, please help me to overcome all these problems. Please help me?
Nov 29, 2020I understand you totally... I almost share the same feeling really... but like, what about being totally honest with someone you met I mean... telling her everything including the insecurities you have, asking her what she is thinking... uk it's hard to find someone who can totally underatand you these days... but just try 'honesty' esh... It might make you feel like you're dumb for being totally honest with someone but what if that is the way out... what if you get someone who can get you no matter what you're saying mnamn... you know it could be a weakness but showing yourself honestly could help you... I personally don't think you can stop overthinking because I tried so hard but I couldn't but see it this way... When you overthink you see many perspectives like what if she is think this and that what if am not good enough what if am wrong bla bla bcha it can make you get readh for the things that could happen... but if you're already honest with someone and they do the same... you will kinda trust that person and that trust might win your overthink... it's like you won't stop overthinking but you'll have answers for your insecurities... for your questions for your fear and all... once you trust that person and be honest the shame and fear might go away... Am getting a little insecure about the tjing am writing right now btw... am just gonna stop it's okay if you don't get it... but i'll be glad if this helped a lil bit... oh btw am overthinking this and am afraid... i feel like am out of the topic mnamn anyways... you're not alone okay I feek what you feel too.
Dec 01, 2020