Virginity is more than the hymn, it stands for sexual purity (*like it or not if you lost it you'll feel guilty cuz it's connected to your conscience to punish your silly ass for sexual immorality) so even if he didn't damage the hymn by his fingers, he is going to damage your healthy conscience with it. plus you're not sure that he is with you for the rest of your life and God made sexual intimacy for one woman to be with one man (hence only one Adam and Eve were created for each other) so if you're not sure he is gon be bound by marriage to you for the rest of your life (guilt would take you over) and if he really loves you he should value your mental health more than his dick desires!