Your problem in my opinion is that you are unconscious. First of all you have to love yourself and then after that you can be in a relationship then you can love other people. But the thing is if you love your self you realize that you don't "Need" anyone the only person that matters the most is YOU. You don't "need" your girlfriend like a human being needs water or shelter... You just "Want" your girlfriend and so "want" is not really an issue its not a nessity and when you realize this no matter how many times you break up it Won't matter cause you don't "need" that Person you just "wanted" them and so you move on you get a new girlfriend ever better one with better titts and ass or whatever feature you prefer just move on... There is no such thing as the "soul mate" that person that is suppose to be perfect to you is whomever you chose it to be and you can change it whenever you want. But the most important thing you should know is that love your slef more than anyone in this world .... You matter most You are beautiful You are perfect You are everything First love your self and know that you don't "need" anything from anyone. Everything you "need" can be got from you. And you are the only person who matters and no one else.