First it will be by stopping to please everyone...trust me i was one i was ppl pleaser....i didn't even know how to say no....even if it made me uncomfortable then as i get older i realized ppl only knew i exist when they need sth...nd it sucks for real....and you can still be on the ground for ppl to step on you and they would say you are not flat enough...just live your life you can't pour from an empty cup...water ur self first...put yourself first and love people around you who really deserve it by now you would know these ppl....and love yourself know when to say no...build yourself again know your worth😊