All people are judgmental including you so judging is a nature curse that we have in un and there is no way that we can stop our selfs from doing it.
Let me tell you a little bit about judging, we humans judge others humans to escape from our problems but even if it doesn’t get us out of it , it makes us feel better about ourselves, releasing a bunch of chemicals in our brain creating an illusion that tricks our brain by making it feel we solved our problem.
Now I think you understood that not being judged is impossible. But don’t worry there is a solution! A solution in you brain, see you brain is divided in to 2 memories one called short term memory (small space but fast to remember things from) while the other is called long term memory(vast space but hard to remember things from). Our stress , problems, fears are usually kept in the long term memories so we don’t usually being them up unless they are stuck into the short term memory, our brain stores recents memories in our short term memory like the math formula that we just saw or the problem that encountered in just a few hours a go and looks for a solution for them until your unconscious thinks it no longer needs the solution, but if the problem is something interfering with your life your brain will look for the solution 27/7 by bringing up those hard memories in every moments possible, stressing us out to bring up with a solution! usually the solution doesn’t exist or its so hard to solve the problem that the solution seems impossible.
But our brain doesn’t need a real solution, a simple unrealistic thought that looks like a solution will trick our brain into thinking its a solution making it erase that thought from our short term memory moving it to the other one, thinking of it as a non urgent problem.
Ok so let me break it down for you the simple solution could be talking with someone about your problems and this simple act can do the trick for us usually giving us the feeling of being relived from something that was haunting us.
So I suggest you talk to someone about all the problems you’re having as soon as possible, but why as soon as possible? Because there are other stuff going in our brains for example when our brain wants to use more memory on our short term memory it will start creating unrealistic solutions for the problems in there causing unexpected personality changes, mind illness and more, and when there is not enough space into the short term memory we start failing school because it will het hard for us to memorize and comprehend things and bla bla bla
Bicia if there is no one that you feel comfortable to talk to, im here for you just inform me and ill drop my username.
Oct 27, 2019