even though im not a counselor let me try to help.. i think it is something that needs effort of both of you..narrowing down the differences in your behavior by him being less avoidant and you being less anxious would be better..being strong in spiritual life, praying consistently and reading the bible would be very helpful..if both of you really want this to work it will work with the help of God.. dont worry my dear all you can do is your best God will take care of the rest.