Honestly I prefer to answer ur question this way So spoiled kids usually find their purpose when life stops being so easy for them at first u grow up getting everything u want so u don’t really know what it means to want something bad enough to work for it but then life hits maybe u fail at something,lose someone or realize that money and comfort don’t make them happy That’s usually when u start thinking deeper u begin to figure out who u really are not who people expect u to be Once u start doing things on their own taking responsibility, and facing challenges u start to see what actually matters helping others creating something or just growing as a person I hope this helps ☺️