I'm sorry you're going through this. A breakup after 5 or 6 years is one of the hardest things to face, especially when you’ve met each other's families and shared that much life together. It leaves a real gap, and when you feel like it's your fault, the weight of it feels even heavier.
The short answer is: yes, it gets better. But not overnight. It takes time, and you have to let yourself feel the pain, even though it's uncomfortable.
A few truths to keep in mind:
You will be fine, even though right now your heart probably feels shattered. Humans are built to survive heartbreak, even when it feels impossible in the moment.
If you made mistakes, acknowledge them, but don’t let guilt define your self-worth. Relationships are complex. One person's mistake doesn't make them entirely bad, and it doesn't erase all the good that existed.
The fact that you both met families makes the situation more painful, but it doesn’t mean your life is over. It just means the relationship was serious, and that's why the breakup cuts deep.
Right now, your focus should be small steps. Get through today. Then get through tomorrow. Eventually, the pain dulls, and you find yourself functioning normally again.
Allow yourself to grieve. Cry, be angry, feel regret. Suppressing it only drags out the process.
Also, don’t feel like you need to fix it immediately. Even if it was your fault, forcing things too soon often makes it worse. Both of you need space right now.
You will wake up one day and realize you’re okay again. You’ll carry the lessons from this relationship, and eventually, you’ll be able to open up to life in a new way.
Jul 07, 2025