I hate the fact that what you don't heal comes back around to haunt you Now I understand that my ex never healed from her past and she repeated what happened in the past with me, I mean I was talking to a girl the other night and we were talking about some hard stuff but I was num to the feeling of comfort she was giving me and I understood that I am not ready to accept any kind of reassurance from another girl or else it would be me taking and taking till she feels like she gave enough to expect back from me then I would say that am not ready cause I wouldn't want to stay on ቁስል ፒላስተር I was using to heal now it's a reminder of my past, so then I would look for another source validation but In the process hurt the other girl and all of these I noticed from how I enteracted with my ex during a one year period, how in the beginning she was afraid then confident then in the end when I expected effort back she became confident enough to say no directly but to be continued in another post