Two points here: 1. Just because he doesn't want to wait for sex, it doesn't mean he's bad or loves you any less. I'm telling you this as a woman. People have their own needs and preferences on what to do during dating to see the relationship as long lasting or not. This could be sex, living together, introducing partner to friends, religion, etc. If you two have different stances on these important matters and they are deal breakers for you, then go separate ways. Enji the whole "if he loves me, he should wait/ do things my way" will never make you a good partner to anyone. (A.k.a you can only set boundaries for yourself and body, but trying to do it to someone else is control). This applies to him too since he's pestering you even while knowing you don't want to do it. 2. since you mentioned getting hurt... waiting for marriage to have sex won't protect you from getting hurt. Married men also cheat, lie, use, and leave their wives. If you have a decent and loyal man who loves you, he'll treasure you regardless of when you have sex or your marital status. Idk how long you've been with your boyfriend, but do you trust him to be the loyal man? And do you think you can trust him like that before you get married?