Psychologist aydelehum but i recently learned about SCHEMAS. Early maladaptive schemas (EMS) are self-defeating emotional and cognitive patterns that develop during childhood and continue to influence an individual's thoughts, feelings, and behaviors throughout their life. They are thought to arise from unmet emotional needs and/or traumatic experiences in childhood. 1. Abandonment/Instability: Fear of being abandoned or left alone, coupled with a belief that others will not provide support or meet one's needs. 2. Mistrust/Abuse: The expectation that others will hurt, abuse, or take advantage of oneself. 3. Emotional Deprivation: The belief that one's emotional needs will never be met by others. 4. Defectiveness/Shame: A deep sense of being flawed, defective, or unlovable. 5. Social Isolation/Alienation: Feeling different from others and believing that one does not fit in or belong. So if you felt like you were ignored as a child. You might see this pattern get repeated over and over in your adult life. Our trumas attract the same type of reality over and over again. So hon try to be aware of this and awareness is like 50% of the healing process. This is as far as my knowledge goes. I hope it helps.