Sweetheart, I used to be you so I'm not gonna lie or even sugarcoat it to you, I'll tell you how I did it and how I think you should do it too. 1- Work on yourself. Sometimes its that simple. Go to places that ur interested in. If u like art go to galleries mnamn. You will meet people with the same interest as you so it's easier to make conversation. You said you like books so join a book club. 2- Develop a capsule wardrobe No I'd like to be nice and tell you the way you look doesn't matter but it does! If you go out well dressed you will get far better treatment (free stuff mnamn rasu) and that's on our dysfunctional society but u gotta learn to play the game. U can search a capsule wardrobe on google and find images that can go with your aesthetic and get those clothes. Thrifting is very budget friendly. 3-Learn manners. What I mean by this is learn how to present yourself in a way that attracts the kind of attention you want. I think I wrote too long but you can ask me any other questions and I'll be glad to answer them or point you to resources that do.