'Practice makes perfect' Now that might sound cliché, but it might also be the only answer to your question. 1. As to the habit-related troubles you r having, you should know that with the right amount of patience, time and practice its possible to shape your habit or even personality into any kind you prefer. (Wanna be a book reader? Funny? outgoing? introverted? extroverted?) Its difficult becaus our brain is neuroelastic i'e changes its structure inorder to adapt to a new habit or develop a new part of personality and that takes time 2. As for the knowledge part ena haymanot lalshew i think the option are pretty obvious, just try to know more, by reading or watching educational videos ena go to masjid/church frequently 3.. As for the look part, first off all, you should know that you are beautiful just the way are and not everyone is gonna like you, Second, you should know that how you dress could take you from looking like Angelina Jolie to your cousin. Infact the hottest girl in your class might just be shrek in a good dress. The dress contributes half of the attractiveness, BEHOLD, the other half lays in how you behave (talk, walk, smile, laugh, eat, breath:)), this things could take you to a whole new level. 4. Make fake smiles and train your smiling muscles until it becomes easy and natural No doubt, a good and frequent smile is one of the most attractive things a girl could have 5. Dependent? I think u mean financially Personally speaking, i hate being dependent too😩, its the worst? Two options, work your ass or suffer, but maybe asking for help and being partially depend is prolly more okay than you thought (we're eventually social animals) Hope i wasnt just exercising my fingers :)