Is sex before marriage a good thing?
Is sex before marriage a good thing?
After all it can harm no one if proper precautions were taken, right?
Well, not from a psychological point of view.
Let me first begin by explaining how men think of sex. Men can sometimes be hard to understand for women because their minds work in a totally different way. A man can be motivated to have sex with a woman fractions of seconds after seeing her. For men there is a very grey line between wanting to have sex with a woman and loving her.
A man can love a woman because he is physically attracted to her. This of course can be very confusing for women who have to find lots of things present in a man before they can fall for him.
In short, one of the main motivations that drive men to love women is the desire to have sex. Again this can be very confusing with women who see love from a totally different angle. Many men can pursue relationships just to have sex without having any other goals in mind.
Of course a man doesn't select a woman based on his desire to have sex with her alone but still this factor is one of the biggest driving forces for his motivation to get into a relationship. So what's the problem with having sex before marriage?
There are many womens who feel bad because their men lost interest in them shortly after having sex. some men lose interest after having sex because of the reason that many men feel like wanting to have sex with certain women to fulfill certain short term psychological goals.
A man who felt rejected by a certain woman might try to date another one who resembles her in order to win the battle he lost earlier. This man will most likely lose interest in that woman after having sex because his sex drive was derived mainly by psychological goals. In other words, when men are allowed to have sex before marriage they can go for short term goals then dump their women shortly after achieving those goals.
Only a man who is extremely interested in a woman will invest energy, money and time to get married to her. When sex only happens after marriage men will focus on their long term goals when choosing a life partner and will not go for very short term goals that can't lead to a fruitful relationship.
What about women?
Most women won't enjoy sex before certain psychological factors are present. In order for a woman to enjoy sex she needs to feel safe and secure in the relationship. Because this kind of security can hardly be fully achieved without marriage women are more likely to suffer from Pre-marriage relationships.
Unlike men a woman's sex drive is tightly controlled by psychological factors and not just physical looks. Because a man can go for a relationship with very short term goals in mind a woman is very likely to suffer when the real intentions of the man becomes obvious.
Feb 10, 2023