Oh, boy! Here it comes. Here comes all the advice that you will have to work out and improve yourself. Be better, faster, stronger, richer, nicer, more, more, more! Except when you can't, because you were already doing your best! And then they tell you to lower your standards and settle for whoever will have you, whether you feel anything for them or not. None of that advice helps-- but it does help to kill the feelings. By the time you did everything you had to do in order to be good enough, you would be exhausted, and even unhappier than you are now. And if you're honest about the type of person who is similar to you, you might not feel very interested, or all that bothered about waiting for it to happen. Grieve the dream, and question whether reality has anything to offer you. Maybe it's not worth it for you.