If you want to change what you are or who you believe you are you should work on the principles you use to evaluate your actions and get help developing the man you wish you become. If you want to be open minded list some people who are and be very mindful of their actions and be like them. If you don't want to be Judgy learn being olay with honesty even though you have your opinion on it. If you want to stand up to your ideas but lack energy start reading books about passion and start watching films on passion. If you can't put up with drama literally go and watch a great dramatic movie ( get your female friends to recommend you one). Last but not least work on your self daily n believe that you can become who you chose to even though you're now not it and know that there's never being perfect but getting better. Hath ye little faith