1. I don't know you so I can't have a constructive criticism on that. 2. እራስህን ስታየው if you're shy and you can't seem to be better, then being shy is your comfort zone. ምናልባት you're asking us this question because it affected a relationship you have or it is making you incapable from forming a new one. I can't speak on that because it is a specific subject I need more information to. But in the long run ሊረዳህ የሚችለው is studying yourself. ይሄ "እስኪ ቁጭ ብዬ ላስብ" ምናምን doesn't work. It's bullshit. Sit down. Asses yourself. And write down what you see in yourself. "የኔ ጥፋት ነው። እንዴት ልጠግነው?" Ask yourself this. And you will see solutions coming up. Make sure they'll help you. በደንብ ከcomfort zone ያወጣል። That is a step you have to take. Without it, you can't have ዘላቂ change. This is what I can manage to say here. If you need anything more just reply and I'll try to reply to your reply of my answer to your question.