የሚፈቀድላት ሳይሆን የምትገፋፋው እንደዛ ነው ብዙውን ግዜ እንደውም አሬንጅድ ሜሬጅ ነው የሚደረገው ያ ማለት ግን የሉም ማለት አይደለም ከቤተሰብ ፈቃድ ውጪ ሆነው ያገቡ ብዙ እንዳሉ አውቃለሁ ግን ጨርሶ ከፋሚሊው ከት አውት የመደረግ እድላቸው ሰፊ ነው

I am a Harari myself. Marrying someone outside a Harari is usually frowned upon both for men and women. Most people mistake it for racism or other related stuffs but it is done to preserve culture. And for those that said that Hararis only marry an arranged marriage except in some cases, that is untrue. There are cases of arranged marriage but a lot of the time the ppl know each other and are getting married by will (first of all Islam doesn't allow marriage of two ppl who don't want to be married to each other). Some families might not enforce such stuffs, but it's more likely than not that they will do. Regarding the guy, Hararis are not selfish and ruthless as the other answers are painting us as. If the guy has been with you till now, he probably wants to marry you. As long as both of you aren't with each other for the feelings. Last bit not least, PLEASE STOP CALLING US HADERE IT IS OFFENSIVE CALL US HARARI INSTEAD

Yeah

First of all, the word hadere is offensive. How many of the ppl answering are actually harari?

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