I'm not gon' tell you that's shallow even though it is in some sense but what you're doing is putting value on a woman you know nothing about because of her physical features. Maybe her personality is shit and it isn't what you'd normally look for, maybe her personality is even better than her looks and she might be someone you'd click with. But if you put her on a pedestal right from the start just because of her looks and without her earning a place in your heart with her being, you have no chance of finding out which one she really is cause you'd be too needy and nobody likes needy. You'd be nice to her but it would be on the premise of expecting something back from her and uk.. that's not nice at all. That's manipulative. Been there, done that. Go down this road and a few months later you'd be here askin' about how frustrated you are about her putting you in the friendzone AT BEST. Just take a step back and observe, people aren't as nice as you think they are. Next time you see a girl you're interested in, be your true self without fear of losing her and that way, just maybe she might return the favor. But first you have to be free of outcome cause uk.. after all what she says doesn't matter, you'll find another girl you love and who loves you back cause you're still a confident young man who prefers gettin' rejected for who he really is rather than be "the nice guy" who everyone likes for his fake politeness and unnecessary pleasing.